I get that you dated him for five whole weeks THIRTY years ago and that he somehow broke your heart. High school is like that. But marriage is hard enough without people like you inserting themselves in to the equation. Add to it that we deal with catastrophic injuries, PTSD, TBI, cognitive disabilities and all … Continue reading To the woman private messaging my husband..
*After* Wife
Love your children more than you hate your Ex…
Tonight, I sit here worried about my mother. She lives in New England, close to the coast. They are already experiencing storm surge. My mother is a widow, elderly and lives alone. And she cut me out of her life (again) about a year ago. My folks divorced 29 years ago. My sister and brother … Continue reading Love your children more than you hate your Ex…
I thought That I needed to Change…
It's funny, I've gone several different directions with this blog over the years. As a wounded warrior's wife, why I stay, after wife... Each time I changed tack I felt that I had to "hide" the previous part of the journey because it wasn't relevant. Today, I realized that it is *all* relevant. The good, … Continue reading I thought That I needed to Change…
Beginnings

I wasn't looking for a husband. Heck, I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. I was looking for myself. If I was good at anything, it was good at bad relationships. So I was getting to know and like myself - knowing that this was the way to potentially have a healthy relationship in the … Continue reading Beginnings
What is an *after* wife?
For the purposes of my situation, an *after* wife is a spouse that marries a service member after they have been wounded in combat. More specifically, the spouse did not know the wounded warrior prior to said injuries.